Saturday, June 03, 2006

the romance movie



here is my question: do romance movies do man kind any good? i say no. see, the movie the notebook is on tv and honestly everytime my bride sees this movie she weeps. i would assume many women would do the same. my issue with these movies isn't that they make folks cry but that the movies give a false sense of what love/romance is and should be. i am not a bitter guy that doesn't see the need for romance of and for his bride. I am just someone that thinks people need to have realistic expectations as to what it is that people are capable of doing. I mean how many times in life are you in a boat on a pond with thousands of ducks with the person of your dreams. and then on the way in it starts to rain and then life turns into a great sex scene? its not realistic. there are great things that we can do for our marriages however i don't think that movies help us. I honestly think the romantic comedy is soft core porn for teenage and well all women for that matter. maybe we need to start a rehab group called RCA: Romantic comedy anonymous. its soft core porn...Ladies you need help

9 comments:

Matthew said...

I think it just speaks to how we are made up. Women want to be captivated right? If you subscribe to what John Eldridge thinks then men are the heroes and women are the booty.

The people who make movies are very smart because they know how to play on that human emotion. I personally do not see what you are saying about soft core this or that, but I do think that movies can play on our emotions and create unrealistic expectations about what real life has to offer.

Matt Adair said...

Aaron, you've been listening to foolish preachers way too much...

Matt Adair said...

Matthew,
The line in Aaron's post that makes the clearest connection between 'romance movies' and soft-core porn:

my issue with these movies isn't that they make folks cry but that the movies give a false sense of what love/romance is and should be.

The problem with porn is not the nudity - it's this false sense of what love/romance is and should be. The medium might be different and watching Rachel McAdams and Disposable Actor Guy #3 might be more palatable than what you find on many XXX sites, but the heart issue seems to be the same.

Do all people react this way to such movies? Nope - but let's not give a free pass just because we think it's ok. As men, we must re-write the book on biblical romance, which often does not involve dying for our brides as much as it means serving them and touching their head and their heart before we touch their bodies (to rip off CJ Mahaney).

Matthew said...

I guess the way I saw your comments Aaron were that softcore porn for the average teenage guy is the equivalent of a love story for a teenage girl.

We tend to label the former as something very "bad", while not necessarily giving due diligence to the latter in respects to emotional and spiritual damage.

Last week our chapter in Ragamuffin Gospel spoke of how the Devil is the great illusionist. He wants us to think things are okay or important when in reality those things are not. He loves for us to trick ourselves into thinking that something is trivial while God may be thinking it is creating a huge hole in our lives.

Aaron said...

i honestly don't know if anyone could change my mind in thinking that romance movies can serve as soft core porn. I have had to many conversations with girls with bad home who LIVE to see hope in a romance/dramedy, that someday they could have the love that tose people share in the movie. just a brooke burns "wild on" show might not have been a struggle for every guy to watch, for most it was soft core porn. i feel like just like mens view of sex get jacked up by media so does romance. women do what to be chased and felt loved but these movies show them that they can find great fullfillment in a man and we all know that is SO wrong. nor can a man find his fullfillment in a women. we all suck and that makes it hard to fullfill anything for anyone. we may be able to satisfy the moment but we can't make it last.
thats why we have jesus.
-a
oh yeah matt i hate it that the church you visited torched gays. maybe the pastor needs to see what world he is living in, try and love the people and change t he world with the love of christ

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